This summer I read a wonderful book by homeschooling veteran Cindy Rollins. It is called Mere Motherhood: Morning Times, Nursery Rhymes and My Journey Towards Sanctification. She is the mother of 9 kids. Eight of which were boys. It is a memoir filled with funny stories and peppered with amazing tips and advice for not only homeschooling but mothering through all of the stages of life.
In her book, Cindy Rollins says, “I am a mother at heart. I build a home, which seems like a place to stay, but really, it is a place to leave. That is the way of it. Children are meant to grow up.” I am a homebody! I could stay home for weeks (and have from time to time) without going stir crazy. I have worked for years to build a home and a connected family. And now I am approaching a new season of life when it is time to let my people go. My oldest is a senior and has already taking steps towards independence. My second daughter has chosen to go to public school and participate in lots of activities. My third daughter is already talking about the next stage of her life even though she is only 13.
Of course, I always knew that my children would grow up. In fact, we have worked hard to help them have the life skills they need to fully function as adults. And yet as the time is approaching I just want a little longer. I want them to want to stay. I want them to value what I value. But they are their own people and they have to find their own ways in the world.
Somehow I thought we could protect them from the world but the truth is that bad things are going to happen. It isn’t even my job to prevent bad things from happening. And it isn’t my fault that bad things will happen. They have their own ideas and their own plans. I just have to keep praying and trusting God that he continue His good work in them. I can’t create children with perfect character and all of the skills they will ever need. But I can love them and create a safe place for them to come home to.
So during these “Driving Years” I am looking for new ways to connect. To use the time I have and to foster our relationships beyond what schoolwork needs done or what chores aren’t complete. As Cindy Rollins talks about, I want to create a lifeline for our children to our family and to the past so that as they move on into the future so they are not just adrift in the universe. And I am trying to let go of my own expectations of a perfect family and instead put my trust in a perfect God.
And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6
*Mere Motherhood is available from Circe Institute. Here is a link: https://www.circeinstitute.org/store/books/mere-motherhood